OK, single moms, let’s talk about sex. The sex you’re unfortunately not having with a man because you’re a single mom in a rut, or you have no time to date, or you recently broke up with someone and feel like someone punched you in the stomach while you simultaneously pack your kid’s lunch and get yourself dressed for work. Or, let’s face it, the sex you might not be having even as a married mom because of stress, busy schedules, and a million other reasons.
We’ve talked about having a friend with benefits, but following the rules! This is a good way to get in your deserved and desired grownup time minus the strings of a boyfriend or the risk of this dude getting close to your prized possession: Your child.
A friend with benefits isn’t for everyone. But going without sex isn’t for anyone. At least not for me. That’s why I’m a poster child for self-sex, you know, masturbation. If you’re feeling flushed you might want to stop reading, because I’m not ashamed of this topic at all. I’m not alone either.
According to a study by Anthony Santella, a public health scientist at the University of Sydney and his colleague Spring Chenoa Cooper, a senior lecturer, a whopping 85 percent of sassy women self-pleasure. Yes, ladies, yes!
I get it.
Masturbation to me is the equivalent of the pressed green juice I drink, the hot yoga I practice, the music I listen to, the books I read—in other words, it’s healthy, single moms. It’s so healthy that the Australian duo argue that it can help prevent depression, due to the ‘happy’ endorphins produced and cause a slight hike in levels of the hormone cortisol, which may give the immune system a boost.
So, you’re combating a cold and not having a panic attack. Awesome.
There’s more, ladies. Masturbation …
- Builds your resistance to yeast infections (because who the hell wants to deal with that southern region fiasco?!)
- Combats pre-menstrual tension, like cramps
- It’s a natural sleep sedative on restless nights when there’s no one to have pillow-talk with.
- And on the flip side is an instant energizer during a dragging day. (Cha-yeah, you can slip into a stall at work, or give yourself a quickie during your kid’s naptime.)
- It increases your sexual awareness: You know what feels good, so the next time you do have sex with someone (and I promise you will, the drought WILL end) you can take charge.
- And hello single moms, there’s no risk of getting pregnant. Ta-ha!
- The number one benefit: Getting off. And on with your day.
If you need a little help in this area check out these 6 sex toys. Also read this article and don’t be afraid to masturbate in public like this foxy Cosmo mag blogger. Plus, Top 7 Masturbation Tips from WomensHealthMag.com See everyone is doing it and motherhood doesn’t have to be so damn cookie-cutter. We’re women too!
